Prepare for dialogueTo have a successful conversation, follow the 4 rules:
1. Choose the right place and timeAvoid serious conversations in places full of people. Refuse the spiritual conversations during mental work. It is important that the listener be in good spirits and feel healthy. Otherwise, your words will be ignored by the interlocutor.
2. Identify the purpose of the conversationUnderstand why you are starting a dialogue? Are you going to help your loved one or just want to talk out? Think motives - it's easier to decide how to submit information. The interlocutor will hear you.
3. Practice in front of the mirrorSay aloud what you want to say to your partner, preferably in front of the mirror. So you will remove the tension and talk calmly. And there will also be time to think about the situation and find additional resources to solve the problem.
4. Build a constructive dialogueCommunicate without assessments, judgments and claims to the interlocutor. Express your own feelings and desires. The native person will appreciate it.
Bring your own thoughtFor a person to hear you, use the following methods.
Through the projection"Do you think the rights of Light are right? "," What to advise Misha? " "," Is it worth Luda to recover? "- a proven way through projection to ask an uncomfortable question to a loved one. You do not always want to sound the truth.
A person subconsciously compares his own situation with someone else's problem and hears advice that he himself gave.
Through our own problem"I want to move to Moscow, do you think I'm right? "," How can I put this into practice? " "," How should I act in this or that situation? "- requests for help that do not cause rejection.
This approach helps the listener understand the situation and solve the problem. After advising a loved one how to cope with difficulties, the interlocutor understands that he himself is able to do it.
Through the opinion of familiar people"How did Aunt Lena react to Uncle Vanya's words?" "," Communicating with Veronica, she believes that in that disagreement the cousin Vitya is to blame! "- another working projective methodology, taking into account the position of familiar people.
Learning about the position of relatives or neighbors, the partner easily enters into a dialogue and freely expresses his own opinion. He is not afraid to discuss the problem, because he does not regard this as a conversation about himself. So it is easy to understand whether the thoughts of the interlocutor coincide with your position or not.
Straight in the face"I'm worried about your health, let me help ...!" "," I want to make sure that you are not in danger! " "," Do not you want to talk about this? "- here you are sure that your loved one is in trouble, but hides the problem.
In such a situation, carefully conduct a conversation, question the interlocutor with caution, show concern and patience to the person. Do not use the phrase: "You do not look well! ", "It's your fault! ", Etc. Sometimes it is useful to seek advice from a person whose opinion is considered a listener.
Knocking down to a loved one is easy, if you do it right.
Let the native person hear you and not afraid to speak on the hidden topics.